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Adoption Studies and Knowing Your Rights in an Open Adoption

Adoption Studies

Maternal Separation

Know Your Rights

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Adoption Studies

First/Birth Mother

2018

Culmination of Studies. Research Article: The Relationship Between Time and Birth Mother Satisfaction With Relinquishment

“The results of this analysis demonstrate that for many birth mothers, satisfaction is not static. Rather, time (measured by years since relinquishment) was found to have a significant inverse relationship with birth mothers’ satisfaction regarding their decision to place their child for adoption.”

2017

“Landmark Donaldson Adoption Institute Study reveals financial difficulties, social pressures and lack of support all factors in decision-making for expectant mothers.”

Understanding Options Counseling Experiences in Adoption: A Qualitative Analysis of Birth Parents and Professionals

2017

“Among women motivated to avoid parenthood, as evidenced by abortion seeking, adoption is considered or chosen infrequently. Political promotion of adoption as an alternative to abortion is likely not grounded in the reality of women’s decision making.”

Adoption Decision Making among Women Seeking Abortion.

2014

“Birth parents express repressed feelings of shame, guilt, anger, and sadness from placement that may manifest as subsequent infertility, disruptive marriage relationships, addiction, clinical depression, and overprotectiveness of any additional children”…”Some clinicians identify grief as the dominant emotion driving such pathological behavior and call for consideration of grief as a major indicator of the posttraumatic stress disorder created by adoptive placement.”

“birth mother grief is like taking the continuous grief over the loss of a child and then adding Complicated Grief Disorder (CGD) AND Prolonged Grief Disorder (PGD) AND Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) while being expected to deal with it all silently because it was a choice.”

Birth Mother Grief and the Challenge of Adoption Reunion Contact

2007

“They found that the effects of the loss of the child on the mother were both negative and long lasting. All of the mothers who participated in the study reported a sense of loss, which did not diminish over time. In fact, approximately half of the mothers surveyed reported an increase in the sense of loss over time.”

Long term outcomes of losing a child through adoption: the impact of disenfranchised grief

2000

Counselors are directed to encourage mothers in vulnerable situations to relinquish:

“Counselors must be trained to give women sound reasons that will counter the desire to keep their babies. One example is to reinforce the notion that it takes a strong, mature woman to place a child for adoption. Arguments about financial survival can be compelling as well. Counselors must communicate that adoption can be the heroic, responsible choice and that the child benefits tremendously.”

THE MISSING PIECE Adoption Advocacy and Pregnancy Resource Centers

1978-2007

“comparable to losing an infant through death, it is a very stressful event for the relinquishing mother. This stress, combined with a powerful grief reaction, can predispose these women to a number of long-term adverse effects”

A Collection of Birth Mother Studies over a 30 year span

 

Adoptee

2016

“When we used regression analysis to adjust the academic performance indicators for disparities across groups in related factors like parent education, family income, and age, sex, and race of the students, we found that adopted students continued to have significantly higher problem rates. Indeed, because adoptive families tend to be well above average in income and educational attainment, the statistical adjustments sometimes magnified the differences in problem frequencies.”

National Household Education Survey, Parent and Family Involvement Component

2013

“Assume that all children who have been adopted or fostered have experienced trauma. Just as not every child exposed to tuberculosis develops hemoptysis, fevers, and weight loss, not every child exposed to stress will develop trauma symptoms…The pediatrician must assume that such exposure could have profoundly impacted the child, and must use history taking, surveillance questions, and screening tools to accurately assess trauma’s impact.”

Helping Foster and Adoptive Families Cope With Trauma

2008

“Nonetheless, being adopted approximately doubled the odds of having contact with a mental health professional and of having a disruptive behavior disorder. Relative to international adoptees, domestic adoptees had higher odds of having an externalizing disorder.”

The Mental Health of U.S. Adolescents Adopted in Infancy

1998-2008

“The odds of a reported suicide attempt were ∼4 times greater in adoptees compared with nonadoptees.”

Risk of Suicide Attempt in Adopted and Nonadopted Offspring

2006

“The attachment bond between a mother and her child is first formed in the womb, where fetuses have been found to develop preferential responses to maternal scents and sounds that persist after birth, explains Myron Hofer, who was director of the Sackler Institute for Developmental Psychology at Columbia University until his retirement in 2011.”

How Mother-Child Separation Causes Neurobiological Vulnerability Into Adulthood

1998-2004

“Although most adopted adolescents are psychologically healthy, they may be at elevated risk for some externalizing disorders, especially among those domestically placed.”

The Mental Health of US Adolescents Adopted in Infancy

2001

“Attempted suicide is more common among adolescents who live with adoptive parents than among adolescents who live with biological parents.”

Adoption as a Risk Factor for Attempted Suicide During Adolescence

Maternal Separation

2018

“The attachment bond between a mother and her child is first formed in the womb, where fetuses have been found to develop preferential responses to maternal scents and sounds that persist after birth, explains Myron Hofer, who was director of the Sackler Institute for Developmental Psychology at Columbia University until his retirement in 2011.”

How Mother-Child Separation Causes Neurobiological Vulnerability Into Adulthood

2011

“Dr. John Krystal, Editor of Biological Psychiatry, commented on the study’s findings: “This paper highlights the profound impact of maternal separation on the infant. We knew that this was stressful, but the current study suggests that this is major physiologic stressor for the infant.”

Maternal separation stresses the baby, research finds

 

Knowing Your Rights in an Open Adoption

Open Adoption is the most popular form of domestic infant adoption (DIA) today, yet there is no standard legal definition for Open Adoption. Laws and Terms vary by state. Know your rights, or lack thereof, before terminating your parental rights over your child. You could possibly never see your child again.

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“There is not really a template for what these agreements should entail as open adoption agreements are a fairly new concept and not legally enforceable in many states. Even those states that do state they legally enforce their open adoption agreements, there are many loopholes, stipulations, and faults with the law.”- The Reality of Open Adoption Agreements, Adoption.com 2018

“The problem is, in most states open adoption agreements aren’t legally binding. If the adoptive parents- or you,- for that matter- decide to take a step back or shut down the adoption entirely, there is very little the other side can do stop it.”- 9 Signs the Adoptive Parents Will Close Your Adoption and What You Can Do About It Before Placement, America Adopts

“Many parents are participating in open adoptions, which is where the biological and adoptive parents create a written agreement that allows visitation and regular updates on the child. Not all states will enforce these contracts…”- Rights of Birth Parents and Grandparents After Adoption, Lawyers.com

“Rights are often sparse when adopting a child out to another family.”- Birth Parents’ Rights After an Open Adoption, HG.com Legal Resources

“A Post Adoption Contract Agreement (PACA) is an agreement that allows for certain, specified contact between the Birth Parents and Adoptive Parents. Laws on PACAs will vary from state to state. Some states will enforce them so long as they serve the best interest of the child and other states will either prohibit or not enforce them”- Types of Adoption Options, Adoption Network

“If a relationship between a set of birth parents and adoptive parents sours after the adoption has taken place, the adoptive parents may decide to eliminate any visits from the biological parents that were agreed upon beforehand. Even though these visitation agreements normally find their way into legal adoption papers, the biological parents have little to no legal recourse to continue their visits to the child.”- Open Adoption FAQ, FindLaw.com

“It is possible for the adoptive parents to cut off all access even in the open process…There is little the biological mother and father can do unless they seek to reacquire the youth.”- Birth Parents’ Rights After Open Adoption, HG.com Legal Resources

“Some adoptive parents may say they want an open adoption…Or, pressured by their agency, they may say they want one because they know that it will increase their chances of finding a match. But talking the talk is one thing. Walking the walk is another…But if you find that can’t penetrate it, it could be a bad omen for what’s to come later.”- 9 Signs the Adoptive Parents Will Close Your Adoption and What You Can Do About It Before Placement, America Adopts

“If the post-adoption contact is an agreement through an open adoption, it is not a true contract in the legal sense. The agreement exists to provide contact between birth and adoptive parents. However, without an actual contract in place to legally enforce the communication with the child, the birth parents may see little or nothing come to fruition.”- Open Adoption Agreements, Are They Legally Enforceable?, HG.org

“If the birth parents use a contract to create an agreement with the adoptive parents, they can use the contract in the courts to enforce contact if the other mother and father refuse which could violate the terms in the legal agreement…however, even the judge may determine that this will need to wait if the youth is too young to understand the situation. Additionally, the judge will do what is in the best interest of the child even if that is to disregard the contract at that specific time.”- Open Adoption Agreements, Are They Legally Enforceable?, HG.org

“A large reason open adoption agreements are largely not legally enforceable is for the simple fact that no one knows what the future holds. Ultimately, adoptive parents have the power in these situations to make decisions based on their child’s best interest. Often, it is the unintended abuse of that power in the form of unrealistic promises that can make or break a trusting relationship between adoptive and birth parents.”- The Reality of Open Adoption Agreements, Adoption.com 2018

“If you have an official open adoption contract, it is technically illegal to close the adoption completely. However these contracts are difficult to enforce, so even a contracted open adoption can be closed.”- Can I Close My Open Adoption?, Adoption.org

“The majority of the time, an open adoption is simply a verbal agreement between adoptive and birth parents to maintain contact. There is typically not concrete documentation of an agreement to openness; therefore, the level of openness can change at any time, whether the decision is mutual or not.”- Can I Close My Open Adoption?, Adoption.org

“In most states, post-adoption contact agreements are not true contracts. That is, they are not legally enforceable. Even if both parties sign an agreement with the agency to an open adoption, the contract can be broken at any time without legal consequences.”- Are Open Adoption Agreements Legally Enforceable?, Adoption.org

“In fact, the courts generally only enforce an open adoption agreement if it clearly benefits the minor child. Although the courts often side with the adoptive parents…At the end of the day, they have the final say over who they let into their child’s life.”- 5 Open Adoption Legal Issues Adopting Parents Need to Know, America Adopts

“Open adoptions vary depending on the type of relationship that the birth parents and the adoptive parents have agreed to…In open adoption there is never any guarantee that the adopting family will keep their side of the agreement to stay in contact.”- USLegal.com

“When adoptive parents are surprised by the incidence, frequency, or duration of postplacement contact, they express more discomfort and dissatisfaction with openness. Surveys do suggest that many adoptive parents feel pressured to agree to an open arrangement in order to receive a child.”- Risks and Benefits of Open Adoption, Marianne Berry

“If the adoptive family refuses to make contact even after a judge has ordered it, there are potential charges and fines. Even so, most of the time adoptive parents are not punished for breaking the contract…when the adoptive family feels that openness is harmful to the child, they can appeal to the courts to have the contract annulled. This way they are not held responsible when they refuse the contract they had initially agreed to.”- Are Open Adoption Agreements Legally Enforceable?, Adoption.org 2018

“PACAs (Post Adoption Contract Agrrements) are NOT custody agreements…In most states, PACAs are not legally enforceable…the PACA is only as good as the parties who abide by it.”- Post Adoption Communication Agreements, Thompson McMullan PC

“A Petition to Modify- In many jurisdictions, only the adoptive parents or the child can file a petition to modify. A Petition to Terminate- This would be a request to do away with the PACA altogether. Again, in many jurisdictions, only the adoptive parents or the child can file this petition.”- What is a Post Adoption Contact Agreement and How Does It Work?, Willig Williams Davidson

“An open adoption agreement can specify frequency and manner of contact between adoptive and birth families…However, while it may be drawn up in the form of a contract and signed by both parties, it is not legally binding.” –Adoption Laws, Adopt.org